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My husband’s 2 friends both want to marry… my only 2 Muslim friends

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So this is kinda wild. My husband has two friends who are both desperate to get married. And by some crazy coincidence, the girls they’re into just happen to be my only two Muslim friends.

Now these guys are basically harassing (not literally) my husband (and me by extension) — asking him to get me to share the girls’ numbers, trying to find out what they like through me, etc. They’re just rushing it and acting like it’s going to be super easy.

For context, me and my husband got married back in university when we were just students. He wasn’t established, but he was pious and a genuinely good man, so I didn’t mind compromising — I gave up some of my rights, didn’t demand a house, and accepted a small mahr. Plus, I’m a revert so I didn’t need my father’s approval. Alhamdulillah it’s been 2 years now and I don’t regret it at all.

But these two… they were actually witnesses at our nikah. So now they think every woman is going to be like me and agree to the same thing. 😭 They’re forgetting that most women want their families on board, a decent mahr, financial stability, a home, etc.

I don’t even know how to tell them that it’s not going to be that simple without sounding harsh. Has anyone else had to deal with friends rushing marriage like this?

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