In January of 1978, I was 14 years old, a freshman in high school. Before I dig wholeheartedly into this, I will tell you that the blizzard of 78 had a lot of snow and the wind chills were incredibly cold, But I recall the winter of 1977 as being one of the coldest and longest. I remember there was an outside thermometer on a window in a room next to my bedroom. I remember it staying well below zero for a week and my Dad telling me " If that goes on for another 5 or 6 days, it will be time to go ice fishing." We did go. Back to the Blizzard. Wednesday, January 25th, 1978 started out about like any other Midwestern winter day. It was a cold morning waiting on the bus outside. The ride was somewhat cold as well with the bus driver keeping the interior lights on as early morning darkness loomed. Sometime in the mid-morning, I walked along the hall to my next class. As I passed one of the school entryways, I looked out and noticed the wind was blowing snow around. The school int...
I didn’t catch him in some dramatic way — no lipstick on the collar, no secret hotel receipts, nothing like that. We were just chilling on the couch late at night. He fell asleep first, and his phone kept vibrating on the table. I picked it up just to mute it. That’s when I saw the preview: “Can you still come over tomorrow? I miss you.” from a contact saved as “A.” The phone unlocked with Face ID before I could even think twice. I ended up scrolling. They’d been talking almost every single day for almost a year. Not sexting, but deep emotional stuff — long messages, inside jokes, venting about life, stress, and even about me. I put the phone back and acted normal. The next day I searched my own name in his chats. Turns out I was “the stable one” and “the real relationship.” She was the one who “actually understood him.” That night I calmly asked who she was. He said “She’s just a friend.” When I asked how he’d feel if I had the same thing going with another guy, he told me I was bein...