I caught my boyfriend cheating and I don’t even know how to process it.

This still doesn’t feel real.

We’ve been together for almost 3 years. I genuinely thought he was the one. We talked about moving in together, even getting a dog. Everything felt secure or at least, I thought it was.

Over the past month or so, something started to feel off. He was pulling away, but when I asked him what was wrong, he’d say things like just stressed or you’re overthinking again.
Then Friday night happened. He told me he was going out with coworkers for a birthday thing nothing suspicious at first. But around 9 PM, I got this weird gut feeling. You know the kind where your chest just tightens and your brain starts running through scenarios you wish you could ignore?

So, I did something I’ve never done before: I checked his location. He forgot he shared it with me during a trip a few months ago.
He wasn’t at a restaurant, he wasn’t at a bar, He was at her apartment, I recognized the address. A girl he once said was just a friend from work. The one he told me not to worry about. I sat in my car outside her building for 45 minutes. I watched him walk out at around. He didn’t look guilty. He didn’t even look surprised to see me. He just froze. She came out behind him wearing his hoodie. I didn’t scream. I didn’t cry. I just asked, how long? He said nothing. I got in my car and drove off. We haven’t spoken since. He’s been texting non-stop, trying to explain, asking to talk. But I don’t even know what I’d say. I don’t know if I’m more heartbroken or numb.
How do you come back from this?

I keep thinking about all the memories, all the little moments and wondering which ones were fake.I feel stupid, I feel angry, I feel empty.

If you’ve been through this, how did you even begin to move on?

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The time I quit my job mid shift and walked out

Eight years ago I was working a customer service job that already had me burned out but one day my boss screamed at me in front of customers over something that wasn’t even my fault. Something in me just snapped. I took off my apron handed it to him and said “I’m done” Then I walked straight out the door and never looked back. Didn’t even go back for my final paycheck. It sounds impulsive but it was one of the most freeing empowering things I’ve ever done. Up until that moment I thought I had to just take it and that quitting mid shift was “unprofessional” But honestly that day taught me there’s a line between being dedicated and being disrespected. I was playing apex earlier and thought about how that single decision changed my whole mindset about self worth. It’s wild how one moment of courage can stick with you for nearly a decade. Still one of the best choices I’ve ever made.

Bimql chhetry.

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