This is incredibly difficult for me to talk about. I feel, I don’t know, ashamed, I guess. Like I’ve somehow failed as a parent. When I was growing up, I thought my parents hated me. I never wanted that for my daughter. I wanted her to know how much I loved her. That my love was unconditional. I’ve never felt as proud as I did the day she came into this world. It was almost like looking into a mirror. She had my eyes. My ears. Our noses were practically identical. And her smile, God, it was like nothing else mattered in the entire world. I wanted her to have that same pride in herself. I never wanted her to ever feel any self-hatred. That’s another thing my parents made me feel. I didn’t get their pride. I didn’t get their love. I got cold stares. I got nights where I couldn’t sleep because Mom’s cries were so loud. I didn’t ask for my family. I didn’t ask to be assigned to them. They were supposed to accept me, and they failed, miserably. I guess the universe has a strange sense of h...
I’m not usually one to snoop through my girlfriend’s personal devices. I always saw it as a breach of trust. But I’m only human. I wouldn’t have been so curious had it not been for this particular phrase she always used. “You gotta stop with your attempts.” She’d always say it in passing. Never “stop with your attempts to flirt,” or “stop with your attempts to get back on my good side.” Just… “you need to stop with your attempts,” randomly. At the grocery store, in the car, sometimes while we watched movies or had dinner together. The thing that I noticed was that she seemed to say it most when she was happy. It was like a tick. Her eyes would be filled with love and joy before suddenly dulling, and she’d shoot me a quick frown before saying it. I’d learned a long time ago that asking what she meant would get me nowhere. It’d always be the same. “I just love you! But then I think about the attempts, and I just get so sad. I wish you’d stop.” That’s all I’d get out of her. No explanati...